7 Things A Man Only Does If He’s Serious About You

Are you wondering if a guy is serious about you? There are some things guys make a conscious effort to not do for women they’re not serious about. So, if you catch your guy doing these, you can be sure he knew exactly what he was doing. And he is hoping to be in it for the long haul.

Ask about “that thing”

If you had a job interview you were nervous about, or a doctor’s appointment, a meeting about a possible promotion, or just something you had once mentioned was coming up and he makes a point of calling you up after to ask how it went, he is serious about you. Men who aren’t serious about a woman make a point of not asking for too many details about her life.


Clarify missed calls

Did he take hours to call back? Did he completely forget to text back? If you’re just someone he is having temporary fun with, he isn’t concerned about you getting pissed about those things. But if he makes a point of saying, “Hey, sorry for taking so long, I was hung up in etc, etc” or “Oh my god I just realized you sent me a text when I was at work and I completely forgot to answer! I’m so sorry!” then you’re not someone he is willing to let go of easily. (Men know how much delayed call or text-backs upset us).


Offer to help
When you mention that you’re moving, or putting together some furniture, or looking for a new car, does he jump at the chance to help? Does he often look for ways he can be of service to you? Men don’t do that just for a woman they are trying to sleep with or casually date for a short period of time. They save that type of effort for ones they are serious about.

Plan ahead

If you’re just a fling to him, you are (unfortunately) kind of replaceable. But, if he is serious about you, no one else’s presence will do. You’ll know that is the case if he asks you a significant amount of time ahead of time to reserve a day so that you can be his date to something. That means he wants to guarantee he gets your time.


Care about your career

If he really cares about you, he wants all the other things in your life that make you happy to go as well as possible! If a man has clearly put time into thinking about your career, and coming up with suggestions for how you could advance it or be happier in it, he plans on being around for a while. He is making sure things in your future will be good. Because he plans on being with you then and he wants to be with a woman who is happy.

Brags about you

If he isn’t serious about you, he may bring you to a party or a friend’s get together, but he’ll most likely leave you to fend for yourself. If he is serious about you, he is proud of you, and he will make a point of being near you to introduce you to people and tell them all about you and your accomplishments.

Just wants to cuddle

No man who is trying to keep things casual is going to make the terrible mistake of sending a, “Can’t you just be next to me so we can cuddle?” text. They know that sends a serious signal. If a guy sends this type of text, he likes you.

The Grass Isn’t Always Greener, Girl: Read This Before You Leave Him…

The Grass Isn’t Always Greener, Girl: Read This Before You Leave Him…

You love your man but you’re starting to detest many of his habits. He spends too much time working or not enough. Either he’s borderline clingy or prefers spending more time with his friends than with you. And the romance? What romance? His idea of romance consists of dinner at his favorite restaurant and catching Kevin Hart’s latest movie. Frankly, you’re sick of it. And you can’t help but think there is someone out there better for you. Maybe there is, but remember that everyone comes with their own custom-made set of problems and the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

In relationships, I believe you should have a set of rules that you refuse to compromise, and usually these aren’t overly superficial. For instance, he has to be employed, can’t have three kids and four baby mamas (kidding), and he has to believe in the same thing you do when it comes to religion. These rules should govern your dating life because they interfere with your values and morals, but there are some things that we should cut men some slack on, and maybe they will do better.

The small things like asking how your day was, sending flowers occasionally, or being less of a mama’s boy may irritate you, but not necessarily hurt you. What am I saying? Choose your irritations wisely because everyone, even you, can cause them.

I see many women jump from one relationship to the next (yeah, some have that luxury) and they’re hoping that this man is better than the next. Chris takes you out more than Rod did, but he talks about himself the majority of the dates. Eddie has a high-paying job and makes more than your ex, but he’s always at work.

This is not an article about settling for something that is making you unhappy. It is about realizing that relationships are all about compromises and some things you just have to suck up. Other things, if he loves you, he may try to improve.

Trust me, there are a few things about you that have caused a man to want to leave but he probably decided to stay because your good traits far outweigh your bad. No one is perfect and if we’re looking for a perfect mate, we will always fall short.

Sometimes the la la land fantasies about what a relationship should be are coming from our perceptions of other couples (and movies). Some people get so caught up in other people’s relationships that they forget to tend to their own. Sure, he may show his girl more PDA than your man does to you, but he may go home and barely talk to her. You never know what goes on behind the closed doors of someone else’s home. Comparing your relationship to others is always a recipe for disaster.

So before you leave him to go find the next, consider these things: Does he make you happy way more than he makes you sad? Is he or has he been at least open to hearing your issues? And finally, what can you do different to make the situation better?

Ladies, simply remember  that everyone has flaws. You can leave one relationship based on minuscule issues only to go to another one with a different set of problems. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.