7 Things A Man Only Does If He’s Serious About You

Are you wondering if a guy is serious about you? There are some things guys make a conscious effort to not do for women they’re not serious about. So, if you catch your guy doing these, you can be sure he knew exactly what he was doing. And he is hoping to be in it for the long haul.

Ask about “that thing”

If you had a job interview you were nervous about, or a doctor’s appointment, a meeting about a possible promotion, or just something you had once mentioned was coming up and he makes a point of calling you up after to ask how it went, he is serious about you. Men who aren’t serious about a woman make a point of not asking for too many details about her life.


Clarify missed calls

Did he take hours to call back? Did he completely forget to text back? If you’re just someone he is having temporary fun with, he isn’t concerned about you getting pissed about those things. But if he makes a point of saying, “Hey, sorry for taking so long, I was hung up in etc, etc” or “Oh my god I just realized you sent me a text when I was at work and I completely forgot to answer! I’m so sorry!” then you’re not someone he is willing to let go of easily. (Men know how much delayed call or text-backs upset us).


Offer to help
When you mention that you’re moving, or putting together some furniture, or looking for a new car, does he jump at the chance to help? Does he often look for ways he can be of service to you? Men don’t do that just for a woman they are trying to sleep with or casually date for a short period of time. They save that type of effort for ones they are serious about.

Plan ahead

If you’re just a fling to him, you are (unfortunately) kind of replaceable. But, if he is serious about you, no one else’s presence will do. You’ll know that is the case if he asks you a significant amount of time ahead of time to reserve a day so that you can be his date to something. That means he wants to guarantee he gets your time.


Care about your career

If he really cares about you, he wants all the other things in your life that make you happy to go as well as possible! If a man has clearly put time into thinking about your career, and coming up with suggestions for how you could advance it or be happier in it, he plans on being around for a while. He is making sure things in your future will be good. Because he plans on being with you then and he wants to be with a woman who is happy.

Brags about you

If he isn’t serious about you, he may bring you to a party or a friend’s get together, but he’ll most likely leave you to fend for yourself. If he is serious about you, he is proud of you, and he will make a point of being near you to introduce you to people and tell them all about you and your accomplishments.

Just wants to cuddle

No man who is trying to keep things casual is going to make the terrible mistake of sending a, “Can’t you just be next to me so we can cuddle?” text. They know that sends a serious signal. If a guy sends this type of text, he likes you.

The Grass Isn’t Always Greener, Girl: Read This Before You Leave Him…

The Grass Isn’t Always Greener, Girl: Read This Before You Leave Him…

You love your man but you’re starting to detest many of his habits. He spends too much time working or not enough. Either he’s borderline clingy or prefers spending more time with his friends than with you. And the romance? What romance? His idea of romance consists of dinner at his favorite restaurant and catching Kevin Hart’s latest movie. Frankly, you’re sick of it. And you can’t help but think there is someone out there better for you. Maybe there is, but remember that everyone comes with their own custom-made set of problems and the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

In relationships, I believe you should have a set of rules that you refuse to compromise, and usually these aren’t overly superficial. For instance, he has to be employed, can’t have three kids and four baby mamas (kidding), and he has to believe in the same thing you do when it comes to religion. These rules should govern your dating life because they interfere with your values and morals, but there are some things that we should cut men some slack on, and maybe they will do better.

The small things like asking how your day was, sending flowers occasionally, or being less of a mama’s boy may irritate you, but not necessarily hurt you. What am I saying? Choose your irritations wisely because everyone, even you, can cause them.

I see many women jump from one relationship to the next (yeah, some have that luxury) and they’re hoping that this man is better than the next. Chris takes you out more than Rod did, but he talks about himself the majority of the dates. Eddie has a high-paying job and makes more than your ex, but he’s always at work.

This is not an article about settling for something that is making you unhappy. It is about realizing that relationships are all about compromises and some things you just have to suck up. Other things, if he loves you, he may try to improve.

Trust me, there are a few things about you that have caused a man to want to leave but he probably decided to stay because your good traits far outweigh your bad. No one is perfect and if we’re looking for a perfect mate, we will always fall short.

Sometimes the la la land fantasies about what a relationship should be are coming from our perceptions of other couples (and movies). Some people get so caught up in other people’s relationships that they forget to tend to their own. Sure, he may show his girl more PDA than your man does to you, but he may go home and barely talk to her. You never know what goes on behind the closed doors of someone else’s home. Comparing your relationship to others is always a recipe for disaster.

So before you leave him to go find the next, consider these things: Does he make you happy way more than he makes you sad? Is he or has he been at least open to hearing your issues? And finally, what can you do different to make the situation better?

Ladies, simply remember  that everyone has flaws. You can leave one relationship based on minuscule issues only to go to another one with a different set of problems. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

Things You Can Do For Him On Valentine’s Day That Cost Very Little

Things You Can Do For Him On Valentine’s Day That Cost Very Little

Most men aren’t into Valentine’s Day and if they were, many would be too insecure to admit it. The day is usually reserved for women (hence the plethora of advertisements enticing men to buy the ‘perfect’ gift for their special lady). While your man may not say he wants to feel loved on Valentine’s Day, I’m sure he isn’t opposed to it. What man doesn’t want the lady that he loves to…well, show him some love?

Maybe giving him flowers, jewelry, or fuzzy items shaped like hearts isn’t the best approach, but you can still do something special for your guy on Valentine’s Day that won’t take too much and won’t cost too much either. Stumped for ideas? Check out some of these suggestions. The great thing is they’re inexpensive, not too time consuming, and can be pulled off just in time for that day of love on Friday.


Homemade Candlelight Dinner

This is probably the most common thing to do for your man on Cupid’s Day. And even if you aren’t known for your cooking skills (like me), it could still be one of the most romantic and sentimental things that you have ever done for him and will surely leave him surprised. Now here’ the trick: If cooking isn’t one of your strong points, you have to practice making the meal before you actually serve it to him. And please get someone else to taste it other than you. Sometimes we can be biased to our own cooking, but you don’t want his meal to end up being more torture than it is a treat.

 “All About Him” Day
You can plan a day full of all the things that he enjoys doing, with and without you. For instance, if he loves playing golf, plan an outing with the two of you or him and some of his friends for the near future. Or make reservations for his favorite restaurant. Make the day all about him, full of his favorite things and activities. Oh, and pampering him with a massage can surely go a long way on this special day.

Put It In A Love Letter
Before you say it’s cheesy, I will be the first to admit that it is; but nonetheless, it’s sweet, romantic, and most certainly memorable. In the day in age when text messages and emails rule the world, a good old-fashioned hand-written letter is a unique gesture. And if you’re really creative, write a poem.


Spa Day

Women love spas; and I’m sure a man won’t be opposed to receiving a massage and pedicure from a woman with gentle hands. Relaxation is relaxation and treating your man to a spa day is definitely a stress reliever. If you want to include yourself, buy a ‘his and hers’ package.


Make Him A Valentine’s Day Card

This is yet another cheesy idea that your man would still appreciate because of its thoughtfulness. It beats getting a Hallmark card that he’s used to receiving. Making a card out of construction paper is cute and unconventional. Switch it up!

Make Him A Gift Basket Or Bag With All His Favorite Things

Fill a basket with his favorite snacks, movies, and small gifts. It’s up to you how much you spend. It can consist of small items or you could even throw in one thing more expensive. This idea doesn’t have to cost a lot but the thought behind it is priceless.

Make Him A Love Playlist

Putting together a compilation of all the songs that are meaningful in your relationship can be a gift that he can keep forever. In addition to picking out the songs and creating a playlist, give him a note describing why you chose each song.

Acknowledge His Favorite Places And Things With Gift Cards

It’s easy to get him a Visa gift card, but where is the sentimental value in that? Instead, give him multiple cards of his favorite places to eat or shop (maybe $10 each). Not only will it come in handy for him,but  it will show that you pay attention to some of the things he enjoys the most.

Put On A Show
This is self-explanatory; and certainly not a good idea for the extra conservative. Maybe you don’t have a pole to do dances on in your bedroom (most of us don’t); but you can still give him a few dances. Have a few glasses of wine and put on some of your favorite music to dance to, and of course make sure you’re dressed (or not dressed) for the occasion.

Give Him A Photo Shoot

This idea is not for the conservative. I’m talking s*xy photos for your man.  Of course, this is better for your husband, fiancé, or long-time partner and not the guy you’ve only been dating for a month. You may have to get it done a few days in advance to make sure the photos are back in time.


Breakfast In Bed

Pressed for time or not wanting to do ‘the most’ for Valentine’s Day? Just make him a quick breakfast but serve it to him in bed. Now, if you do have more time on your hands, you can serve him breakfast and the two of you can remain in bed for a while after.

Play A Game

Spice it up for your man on Valentine’s Day by playing a game. I am not referring to Spades or board games (unless you’re thinking Twister). This doesn’t have to be the kinkiest thing you can think of. There are plenty of games that involve basic level intimacy. Just visit your local sex store and allow your imagination to run wild, if you dare.

Movie Night–But Films Of His Choice

No romantic comedies for once! If your man likes action movies, dorky comedies, or long drawn out war movies, try to take one for the team and “enjoy” the films together. Pop some popcorn, get some libations together, and keep it warm and cute in the house.

Once again, Valentine’s Day is more for the ladies, but since most of us try to act like “Sweetest Day” doesn’t exist, do something nice and simple for your man instead of waiting for him to come through and do it all on the day of love. It doesn’t have to cost you an arm and a leg, and I’m sure you will both love it. -

Is your boyfriend serious about you?

          Is your boyfriend serious about you?

The 50 signs that show you're in a committed relationship Planning a holiday, driving each others' cars, having a key to your partner's house, being invited to family gatherings, posting a 'loved-up' photo on Facebook, are all signs a relationship is serious and past the 'seeing each other' phase, according to a new survey.

Researchers questioned 2,000 people to reveal the top 50 things which indicate a couple are in a committed relationship. Check on it below and tell us what you think...

1. Meeting the parents
2. Exchanging house keys
3. Planning a holiday together
4. Discussing plans for the future
5. Being invited to family gatherings
6. Saying 'I love you'
7. Staying overnight at each other's houses
8. Signing Christmas / Birthday cards together
9. Seeing each other at least every other night
10. Leaving a toothbrush at each other's house



11. You tell each other absolutely everything

12. Letting them take care of you when sick
13. Being introduced to wider friendships circles
14. Discussing how many children you might want in the future
15. Buying a dog or cat together
16. Driving each other's cars
17. Inviting them to a wedding as a date
18. Divulging salary details
19. Letting them know your pin number
20. Discussing holidays
21. Having a drawer at each other's house
22. When you HYPOTHETICALLY talk about IF you lived together
23. Inviting people round as a couple
24. Having clothes and other belongings at each other's houses
25. First name terms with their mum and dad
26. Talking about intimate health issues
27. Farting in front of each other
28. Inviting them out with your friends / family
29. Receiving cards or gifts addressed to both of you
30. When you know what each other's plans are for every single day
31. Showering together
32. Changing Facebook status to 'in a relationship'

33. You know each other's passwords

34. Wearing pyjamas when you get home from work
35. You share secrets about friends with each other
36. Always being the 'plus one' on invites
37. Getting food in your big shop just for them
38. You start watching TV shows they like
39. Phoning each other at work
40. Stop putting make up on to look gloriously fresh before they wake up
41. When they start asking for your opinion on stuff
42. Going out with friends or family without the partner being there
43. Signing off 'love' in a card
44. You start listening to music they like
45. You stop seeing people you know they don't like
46. Putting a photo of the two of you on Facebook
47. Sending good morning / goodnight texts
48. Having a pet name for each other
49. Telling each other how many sexual partners you've had
50. When all their friends add you on Facebook

The Dumbest Sh!t Men Do For Valentine’s Day

The Dumbest Sh!t Men Do For Valentine’s Day

It’s Monday, we’re annoyed, and Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. It’s the perfect time to talk about the not-so-lovely aspects of this holiday, which is supposed to be all about love, like the dumb ish that goes down either because men are lazy, clueless, cold-hearted, or some sad combination of all of the above. Here’s a list of stupid things men do for Valentine’s Day that we pray none of you ladies experience this year. If you have more, feel free to share. :)

 Break up with women so they don’t have to buy them a gift

See that line about being cold-hearted. Valentine’s Day has the potential to be the end of any given woman’s cuffing season without so much as a hint, clue, or suggestion. If you notice the guy you’ve been kicking it with/dating since September is suddenly arguing with you every day, you may find yourself alone Friday simply because he’s cheap. And evil.


Wait until the last minute to plan a date

We know men hate Valentine’s Day with about as much emotion as women love it, but if you’re going to bother participating in the holiday, just do it right. Every year, men across the globe spend their lunch hours on the phone begging restaurants for reservations and scrounging the aisles of local pharmacies trying to find some semblemce of a gift that doesn’t immediately scream “Bought in Walgreens.” And every year they fail and piss off their girlfriend who just wanted to know you give a damn


Tell the woman they’re dating they don’t believe in Valentine’s Day on Valentine’s Day
I’m all for men exercising their right not to participate in Valentine’s Day, so long as the person they’re dating knows this is their stance well before the day comes. Do not, I repeat do not, show up at your girl’s house Friday night in sweats with a box set of “24″ in your hand talking about “hey bae” and then when she questions you about a gift you say, “you know I don’t believe in Valentine’s Day.” Insert door slam.


 
Buy women teddy bears
Just…how old are we? 16 or 36?



Buy drugstore chocolate

See point two. If you’re going to bother to get us anything, get us something of quality not them nasty arse bootleg $2.99 candy-in-a-heart chocolates that have been drying out on drugstore shelves since the day after New Year’s.


Serenade women

OK this isn’t dumb, it’s just awkward, cliche, and not practical. Unless you sound like Brian McKnight when Martin hired — keyword hired — him to sing to Gina before he proposed, keep this idea where it belongs: in the minds of romcom movie directors.


Buy women raunchy lingerie

We won’t totally hate on you for this one because women are known to buy men things that they can enjoy as well, but this gift just screams selfish. By all means, spread it out on the bed for when we get home from whatever activity you actually planned for us on V-Day, but don’t let something from Vicky’s be the main attraction.


Buy something their woman explicitly told them she doesn’t like

No-brainer, right? Except for when it’s not. If your lady has told you time and time again she doesn’t like red roses, don’t buy them for Valentine’s Day just because every other man on earth is doing it. Be creative!


Pretend he didn’t remember it’s Valentine’s Day and then surprise his woman with a gift at 11:59p February 14
Yeah it’s cute when you hear these stories with grand happy endings, but the reality is you’re setting yourself up for a night of torture if you go this route. While you’re playing coy like you don’t know what the day is, we guarantee your woman will be sitting across from you with an attitude that isn’t worth whatever it is you’re going to present to her before the clock strikes midnight and she’s possibly already broken up with you.

HOW DO YOU KNOW, HE IS THE ONE

1. How He Makes You Feel
Notice that you feel like Wonder Woman around him. He should make you feel like a superhero. You should feel like you can be anybody and do anything when you're with him. You should be unafraid of the challenges in your life because he makes you confident that you are strong enough to get through them. When you're with him, you should feel like you can take on the world and win.

2. How He Makes You Feel
Make sure you feel comfortable being yourself in front of him. This doesn’t just mean being that "silly you" that only your close friends or family know; it means letting him see you vulnerable, whether it’s without make-up, after a sweaty workout, when you’re afraid, or while you cry.

3. Make sure you don't feel ashamed around him. Do you feel the need to hide things around him? If you feel that you need to hide things about yourself or your life, then maybe he's not the one. He should love you no matter what, and if you worry that he'd judge your slightly-hairy winter time legs, then maybe he isn't the one.

4. See how often you think about future plans. Do you imagine the two of you cozying up on distant birthdays or holidays? Do you fantasize about the apartment, house, pets, or even children you may one day have together?

Method 2 of 4: How He Treats You
1. Notice when he says "I love you". It's nice if he says "I love you too" after you say it but it's important that you aren't the only person saying the initial I love you. He needs to say it sometimes too. This shows that he thinks about how much he cares about you and that he's not just following the standard script that he feels is expected.

2.  Don't get too worried if he doesn't, though. Some guys are very shy about sharing their feelings. Ask him why he never says it first and tell him that you like to hear it. This might make him more comfortable saying it to you.

3. Make sure he doesn't pressure you to become intimate before you are ready. Someone who wants to enjoy your body before your heart is willing clearly doesn’t have your needs in mind. (And if he can’t see past his own desires when it comes to sex, he certainly won’t be able to when it comes to committing or starting a family.)

4. Pay attention to whether or not he’s controlling. If he frequently tells you what to do, tries to run your life, or manipulates your emotions to get what he wants, watch out! This guy is insecure and feels that he has the upper hand in your relationship. "The one" will be secure with you and let you be who you are.

5. Note whether or not he keeps you from his pals. If he refuses to include you in his social plans and avoids telling you what he and the guys did last night, he obviously isn’t willing to include you in his life and might even be up to something shady.

6.Notice whether or not he alludes to your future. If the two of you aren’t in the stages of a relationship where you openly discuss future possibilities, pay attention to whether or not he drops any hints. Even something small, like wondering what the two of you will do for an event that’s at least a month or two away, is a good sign.
If he proposes to you too soon (e.g., before 1 year), take some time to analyze why he is rushing. If you are inclined to say yes, suggest a long engagement to be sure.
If he absolutely won't discuss a future together – even after a significant amount of time (say a year) – he is probably not considering one.

Method 3 of 4: How You Treat Him
1. See if you naturally remember his birthday, your anniversary, and days that are important to him. This is one way of determining whether or not he weighs on your thoughts when he’s not around; it’s one thing to make room for someone in your life, but it’s another thing to entirely make room for him in your mind.

2. Notice if you compliment him when he's not looking his best. Do you find yourself attracted to him even if he has food in his teeth or helmet hair? Or does your attraction wax and wane depending on how well he grooms himself for you?

3. Notice if you’re excited to include him in your life. Wanting to compliment him to your friends and include him in your family is a major vote of confidence. On the other hand, if you don’t feel secure about a relationship, you may subconsciously find excuses not to introduce or discuss him.

    Do you include him in family plans, such as inviting him on your family vacation (or even simply assuming that he will accompany your family without needing an invitation)?
    Do you want to help him get along with his family (or even stick up for him) because it’s important that they like you?
    Do you suggest that he should call your mother if he needs advice on cooking, cleaning, etc.?

Method 4 of 4: How You Work Together
1. Notice how you change each other. We often change, as people, when we’re around another person a lot (especially someone we care about significantly). Sometimes we change each other for the better and sometimes we change each other for the worse. You will need to decide if you positively impact him and he positively impacts you.

    Do you find that either of you is becoming possessive, jealous, distrusting, lazy, or constantly stressed out? This is probably not someone you want to be around. They probably are not the one for you and you will not like the person you become if you stay with them.

Do you find that you inspire each other to be better people? Do you strive for more from life and for yourself when you’re with him? Does he do the same? Do you make each other kinder, happier people? This is a healthy relationship and you will only improve each other’s lives

Reflect on how he lives his life. Does it coincide with what you hope your future will be? Does he share the same values? For example, if you recycle and he throws trash out his car window, is this really going to work?

2. Notice the ways you both say you care. Is he comfortable letting you see his tender side? Do you openly tell him you love him, even offering qualifiers such as "I love you a lot" or initiating the "I love you more" game?

Look for discrepancies between what is said and what is communicated. We’re often so blindsided by someone who waxes poetic about their love that we fail to notice whether or not they’ve done anything to back it up. At the same time, we might be so frustrated by someone who doesn’t spout poetry that we overlook all the thoughtful, loving gestures they’ve made. Reflect on whether either of you fits into one of these categories.

3. See how comfortable you are in each other’s space. It’s often said that living together is the true test of compatibility; a relationship that takes place entirely in restaurants and parks might be wine and roses, but having to share dishes, watch each other shave, and trip over dirty laundry can dispel an illusion in no time. If you live together, how well do you compromise on individual and shared responsibilities? If you don’t, have you at least swapped keys to each other’s places? And if so, how welcome do you both feel?

4. Ask yourself if you have a comfortable balance when it comes to spending time together and apart. Having your own separate interests will provide for a more interesting relationship and help you both to maintain healthy, independent identities. If the relationship is on the right track, you will feel comfortable and secure even when you are apart.